So as I mentioned in
https://slightlysarahblog.com/2016/09/08/when-you-get-knocked-down-part-1/
This is personal writing that I did not intend to share. So the letter below is a very raw piece I wrote to my child. I feel compelled to share all of this now because of the shadow and stigma attached to any child labeled “less than perfect”.
This is a piece I wrote for Eve the night before she had her “evaluation”. I write both girls letters on and off so they have them when they are older. I did not realize how scared I really was until I read this back to myself.
My sweet baby,
Tonight is our last night.
So when you fussed I went right up to your bedroom to pick you from your crib and snuggle you. I held you in my arms and you laid your head on my shoulder, like always.
But tonight is our last night.
I listen to your deep baby breaths and felt your coo’s against my neck.
But tonight is our last night.
Tomorrow we face ” normal “, we face “evaluation”.
Tonight is the last night that you are no different than any other 18-month old baby.
Tomorrow we face ” hearing problems “, ” speech problems “, ” autism ” or worse. Tomorrow we face “more tests “.
I hope you can feel all the love and energy I’m pulsing through my body to you, so you know, that no matter what tomorrow brings, I couldn’t love you more.
I hope you know that no label will change the fact that you are the baby I was on my hands and knees begging God to let me keep you.
No, tomorrow won’t change that.
Nothing could change that.
Still tonight is the last night that I can mask my fear and hold you like I always have.
I hope you know that I will fight for you. I will be your advocate, and I will move heaven and earth to make life easier.
No matter what tomorrow may bring, you can count on me. There is nothing I won’t do to make sure you have a happy life.
But tonight is our last night.
So I will stop thinking and just enjoy our time. My sweet cuddle bug. My perfect baby.
Love Always ,
Mama
ok. So I am a mama of four little girls and I have had concerns with all of them at some point. Some concerns were valid- most were crazy mom concerns- but nonetheless. You are very brave for sharing such intimate feelings and fears and I commend and support you mama. Come see me at http://www.fourprincessesandthecheese.com when you need a laugh. I also happen to be a former special edu. teacher with an arsenal of degrees…so if you have questions please reach out to me. I know the world of evaluations is confusion, intimidating and terrifying. I will hold your hand 😉
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Thanks so much !!!! And I will definitely reach out !!!
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Your blog is great. YOU are doing great- fantastic writer and story teller. Keep it up Sarah!
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Thanks ! I love your blog as well !!!
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