Today’s post is going to be a little more serious than usual. Ready, put your serious face on kids.
I want to talk about “mom guilt”. Mom guilt; is that disgusting feeling that lurks in the pit of every good moms’ stomach anytime she thinks, does, or says something not revolving around her babies.
A few months ago, I read an article about singer, songwriter Adele. She almost didn’t move forward with her latest record because of “mom guilt”.
OK, ladies it has gone too far. I mean can you imagine life without Adele? Can you see her singing to her sweet little babe; (to the tune of “Hello”)
“Hello, it’s Mom”
“I was wondering if after all this time, you’d like to sleep”
“So that I may… finally rest”
“Or write a song for the world, they need me, I’m the best.”
“HELLO, can you hear me?”
“I’m in spit-up covered yoga pants, and a spit-up covered T”
“Holding baby. Silently. Careful not to move, even though, I have to pee.”
“I’ve forgotten what rested feels like, 2 hours’ sleep is now a treat”
“There’s such a difference between us”
“And a million hours”
“So Hello from the other side, of the crib
“I must have tried a thousand times,
“to get you to sleep”
“But when I try, you never seem to fall asleep, anymore”
If you not an Adele fan, you might not get that last part. Actually, if you’re not an Adele fan, just stop reading my blog. Just kidding. Back to the task at hand.
So pretty much every mom in every situation is suffering from “mom guilt”.
Working mom feels guilty for every missed milestone. Or God forbid, she actually loves her job and chooses to work. Scandalous, I know. What kind of a monster wouldn’t want to give up a career that makes her happy and pays bills?
Stay at home mom, who feels guilty about not teaching her child the entire alphabet in English, Spanish, and Scandinavian before they are 3. What the hell does she do all day? You should have a perfect house and look fabulous at all times. No excuse, you don’t actually work!
Married mom feels guilty for every un-necessary date night. I mean paying attention to your husband OR your kids, that’s a tough call. O wait, do you ever get to pay attention to yourself? Uh No, that’s selfish! Please be working on parenting or marriage 24/7!
Single mom feels guilty for ever wanting to go on a date again. How could you want to find love again? You need to concentrate on filing two parental roles, at all times. No time for your happiness hunny!
You get my point? And sarcasm right? We may all have guilt about different things, but we all have guilt.
I don’t really think there is any way to combat mom guilt, we will probably have it as long as we exist. However, maybe if we can identify and relate to each other better, we can ease our minds a bit.
Tell me about your “mom guilt”.
Mom who just ignored her kids for 30 minutes to write, (Guilty)
The gorgeous Adele on Harpers Bazaar.com